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Assertiveness is the ability we all have to say what we want or want without imposing our ideas on others or without staying silent.
There are many things that we can do as parents so that children are assertive and respond to certain circumstances in their proper measure, neither with violence nor passivity.
1- Listen to the child: If the child has had problems at school with other children we have to stop and listen to him. We cannot be doing anything else, our attention must be directed solely to our son. In addition, we will create a good climate of trust.
2- Not solving the child's problem: If we always solve any inconvenience or problem for our son, we will be giving him a negative message, since we are telling him that he cannot achieve it. This is not positive for their development or autonomy, but above all, for their self-esteem.
3. Find the solution: We can sit down and talk with the child and think together what strategies can be carried out. We can give him clues so that he can manage to fix a situation himself, for example: 'What do you think if you take the ball to school and suggest that the children play with you?'
4. Role playing: the child can rehearse at home with us how he should act in a conflict situation in front of his friends, he can play both roles, that of other children and his own. So when you get to school we can have the guarantee that you can.
5. Teach them to compromise: Sometimes there are children who, if they don't play what they want, do not want to participate in anything. We must explain to them that they must accept the tastes of others and to negotiate: 'today I accept your proposal, tomorrow you accept mine, okay?'
6. Educate the child not to be envious: The child must be taught to rejoice in the successes of others and to congratulate them, it is a strategy for them to promote bonds of communication and friendship and be assertive.
7. Do not teach them to defend themselves with violence: never resort to 'if they hit you, give it back or hit it harder'. They must be educated so that if another child wants to hit or be violent with him, he should withdraw letting him know that if he has that attitude he will not play with him or also to ask for help from a school caregiver.
8. Do not intervene: If the children are the same age, it is preferable to help them solve the problem themselves, since otherwise we run the risk that the parents end up in conflict, while for the children it has been a trifle. Yes, it is advisable to intervene in case the problem occurs in children of different ages.
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