Is it really that bad?
Are we too oversensitive parents and do not let children grow?
In the book 'What a seven-year-old should know' published in Poland over 10 years ago, Donata Elschenbroich, a German educator, mentions, among other things, the skills that a seven-year-old child should have.
- Want to win but be able to lose.
- Do not confuse hunger with anger or sadness.
- Be able to swing yourself.
- Feel the satisfaction of overcoming your own limitations.
- Clean up, walk in the woods, fix something, camping together with my parent.
- Be able to calm down.
- Understand that the disease is a temporary condition and is part of life.
- Know family habits. Understand that each family has different habits.
- Know the story of the ugly duckling. I understand the problem of rejection and belonging.
- See the castle, old objects in the museum. Understand that the world does not look the same as it did 100 years ago and before.
- Know the emergency telephone numbers.
- Be aware of the size of the world.
- Be able to turn devices such as TV and radio on and off.
- Be able to handle keys. Close and open the door.
- Be able to negotiate and reconcile conflicting parties.
- Be able to control your anger and not fight.
- Peel the fruit from the skin, see how it looks inside, look at the stone.
- Study the different shapes of leaves and veins covering them and the lines on your own hand.
- Know how the fruit smells.
- Have favorite scents.
- Know what is edible in nature and what is not.
- Listen to the message from the other person, remember it and forward it.
- Listen to the echo and be able to trigger it.
- Be able to imitate the voices of birds and animals.
- Know the differences between walking and wandering. Experience the hardships of the road and the moment when you want to drink while hiking.
- Feel the pulse in the other person and at home.
- Feel the changeability of nature - its beauty, but also the risks it brings, e.g. when the weather breaks down.
- Understand the units of mass - 1 liter, 1 kilogram, etc.
- Let others speak. Wait your turn.
- Understand that not all wishes come true right away.
- Bend down to pick something up that fell.
- Be able to dispense strength, adapting it to the activity - sticking, hitting the drum, etc.
- Associate the term 'exception'.
- Know the songs and have the joy of singing them.
- Experience primitive and comfortable conditions.
- Make a snowman.
- Make a sand castle and a dam on the stream.
- Make a windmill and torches with my parent.
- Light and put out the fire with the parent.
- Feel the pride of being a child.
- Be able to forgive others.
- Know at least one book from cover to cover.
Are all these skills for my seven year old?
I admit that most are, but some surprised me. We haven't had the chance to light a bonfire yet. We also didn't prepare torches. I think my child is aware of what modest conditions are. Only does he know the concept of primitive conditions? And should he really know them? As a parent, I try to provide my children with the best ...
Perhaps a trip to the tent would be a step in the right direction to experience and like simplicity.
What do you think about this list?
Do you agree that every seven-year-old should be sensitive to the world around him, proud of who he is and open to everyday learning through experience? Have you noticed that the German educator does not mention reading, counting, but focuses on completely different skills?