Child development, i.e. when the child surprises you day by day with a new skill

Child development, i.e. when the child surprises you day by day with a new skill

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It would seem that the child's development can be compared to a line gently climbing up. This is not true. The child's development looks a bit different. It can be said that it resembles a sinusoid rising to higher and higher levels.

Before the toddler reaches the next stage of development, for some time he "forgets" about what he has learned. In other words he becomes more childish, less resourceful and clearly more dependent on his parent than before. This is for a simple reason - all forces are focused on other areas that are being perfected at a time when others are being missed. The effect is that from time to time a cooperating child turns into a "difficult, rebellious and lost toddler" at home. It's a signal that soon the child will reach the next level on the ladder of personal development and surprise his parents with a new skill.

Although a certain pattern was created, what should the child's development look like, the truth is that the child’s development is going on very individually. Here are the truths to keep in mind on this occasion.

Child development. The child develops at his individual pace

Every child is different. Theoretically, we know about it. We are reminded of this at every turn. Unfortunately, it is difficult for us to accept this fact and we often cross certain limits, unknowingly harming our children. Instead of striving for the child to be 'the best', comprehensively gifted and quickly reached individual stages, blet's be observers of the fascinating process that we are privileged to see every day. Before our eyes, the toddler turns into a resourceful preschooler and later an independent schoolboy. It is a process that we will remember with exasperation ...

If you want to speed up by force, you will probably harm

There are many ways to stimulate a child's development. Unfortunately, many of them are considered harmful today. Parents who reach for them, underestimate the alarming signals, are convinced that nothing can happen, that since they themselves were brought up in a similar way, their child can also. Meanwhile, it's worth remembering that knowledge about child development is getting better, that is why today the indications are different than decades ago. Now it is not recommended to plant the child when it is not ready, to carry it by the hands, when the toddler feels all fours well, put into walkers, etc.

Comparing children is of little use

It is difficult not to compare a child with peers. It's natural that we do it, the reason is simple - we are worried about how the child is developing, whether it is harmonious or not missed anything, especially as debuting parents. However, you have to realize that usually at a given moment a child develops one skill, ignoring the other.

In other words, when he learns hard to walk, he will probably cease to be interested in sound and speech skills so much. To put it another way - the fact that little Bartuś is already walking, and Jasio is not yet, is of little importance, because most likely Bartuś is not saying much, and Jasio is already quite a lot. Children acquire specific skills at different times in their lives.

Stimulate it to observe and follow the child

There are a lot of educational toys and fancy gadgets on the market that are supposed to stimulate the child's development. It's worth using them, but don't get caught up in the paranoid perception of reality. It happens that a child at a given stage of development will not be interested in a given activity and will not want to play in a certain way. It makes no sense to teach him for what he is not yet ready. As parents, we should be attentive observers, encourage certain activities, but accept that the child may not be ready for certain things. And the other way. There will be days when a child will want to build blocks, maneuver with scissors, stick or paint. And although it may be boring for a parent to do the same thing over and over again, it will be a very important lesson for the child.

Before the toddler reaches the next stage of development, he will probably be "more difficult"

Children in the first, second and subsequent years of life undergo so-called developmental jumps. These are the moments when, before they reach certain skills, they are "retreating in development". It turns out that the skills they already had were forgotten, the child behaves as if he could not eat alone, fall asleep on his own, get dressed, even though it was not a problem before. The toddler is irritable, rebels, is more difficult to cooperate with. It's a difficult time, a test of patience for a parent. It is worth to wait for him, because after him comes a surprise, when the child surprises his parents with new skills that were previously a problem, as if from day to day "growing up".

After years, it really doesn't matter when the child started walking

The child's development is exactly the way nature invented it. Of course, there are situations when the toddler develops a bit slower and intervention is needed to help the child in trouble (that's why contacting a doctor and consulting a specialist if in doubt is so important). It is worth taking this opportunity to use development calendars, tracking how a child should develop according to a certain pattern and intervene if in doubt. However, if the specialist calms us down, let's trust him. Let's do it especially when the child's development and reaching certain stages are within a time frame (which is quite wide). After years, it doesn't really matter when the child started walking, whether it was at 10 months of age or at the age of 1.5 years. It doesn't matter if the child started saying sentences just before the age of 2 or a few weeks after the 2nd birthday.

As parents, we should keep our finger on the pulse, watch the child, consult doubts, but at the same time show patience and empathy and do not accelerate anything.